Wednesday, May 7, 2008

So, What's the Secret?

So what's the secret to being married for thirty-four years and looking forward to celebrating number fifty one day? All I can tell you is that our marriage is centered around our faith and that the message from God's Word is critical to the happiness that each of us enjoys.

First of all, God loves us and everything He does for us is for our benefit. He created the institution of marriage to be enjoyed by a man and a woman and to bring each of them happiness. The Bible tells us that God loved us so much that He gave His Son to die on a cross for us so that we might, through faith, have eternal live. Christ tells the husband that he is to love his wife with the same love that Christ loves the church and gave himself for that church (Ephesians 5:25). If I love my wife with that kind of love, then everything I do, I do because I love her and I want her to be happy. I want her to be pleased with this relationship. I want my Lord to be pleased with me as a man who loves his wife and realizes that his wife is a gift from God created especially for me and for my happiness.
Secondly, marriage is a partnership. Like any relationship, it takes work to maintain that relationship in peak condition. A happy marriage doesn't "just happen". Both of us are committed to the relationship and to each other because we love one another and it is our desire that our partner be happy in this relationship. No major decision in this relationship is made without prayer and conversation. God is not the author of confusion, therefore He will not give my wife a different answer to an issue than the one that He gives me. Again, God created the institution of marriage for our benefit, not for our demise.
Finally, I married a woman far better than I deserve. I thank my Lord and Savior for her every day. My wife is the most thoughtful, caring and giving person that I know. Proverbs 31:10-12 says, "An excellent wife, who can find? For her worth is far above jewels. The heart of her husband trusts in her, and he will have no lack of gain. She does him good and not evil all the days of her life." I have found that woman. Proverbs 31:25-30 further states, "Strength and dignity are her clothing, and she smiles at the future. She opens her mouth in wisdom, and teaching of kindness is on her toungue. She looks well to the ways of her houselold, and does not eat the bread of idleness. Her children rise up and bless her; her husband also, and he praises her, saying: Many daughters have done nobly, but you excel them all. Charm is deceitful and beauty is vain, but a woman who fears the Lord, she shall be praised." I married such a woman.
So, back to the original question, "What's the Secret?" The answer is, you have to give yourself to the marriage. You have to give yourself to your spouse. Whatever you have within you, you have to "Give it Away."

Give it Away - Gaither Vocal Band

I need to apologize to two of my readers for deleting their comments. I had mistakenly published only the title of this post the other day without the body of the message. My mistake made their comments look a little awkward after I published the entire post. So, Julie and Matthew, I am sorry for the confusion.


Julie said...
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DoubleDeckerBusGuy said...
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DoubleDeckerBusGuy said...

No worries... no offence... and goodly advice!

mommanator said...

It's not a secret at all if you love your spouse as Jesus loved us is it!

Bond said...

DrillerAA: Wonderful post... I hope you and the Bride are enjoying your time away.

DrillerAA said...

Matthew: Thank you, but the advice doesn't come from me. It came from a much higher source.

Julie: To those who truly know Christ, this is not a secret, but it can be a revelation to those who don't and a bit of suprise to those who know Him, but have a little difficulty understanding the relationship.

Charin said...

Great post! :)

Julie said...

Well.....I was wondering about that! Thanks for clearing up the issue with the comment!

About this've got the secret my friend! Now if only I can implement all that!